How I Learned To Tell Myself To ‘Shut Up’

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How I Learned To Tell Myself To ‘Shut Up’ Or, how to embrace your confidence and to eliminate toxic shame. For much of my adult working life, I’ve worked within the recruitment sector. Creative recruitment, to be exact. My role was often very demanding. I’d be required to find new clients (including cold calling), maintain existing client relationships, ask for and take job briefs, search for suitable candidates, interview suitable candidates, reference check suitable candidates, present across the suitable candidates and then, lastly, convince the client as to why they were the most suitable candidates that they would be able to find. On top of all of that, while this was going on, we were often finding that we would need to justify our existence and our rate every step of the way. There is often a line within that industry that people never choose to be a recruiter, it is a job that they fall into. When it came to creative recruitment, it was often just that tough harder as we weren’t talking about a job that people just ‘did for the money’. These were creatives and their jobs were often a reflection of who they identified themselves as…

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Getting Mental Health On The Line – Weekending 12/02/17

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Getting Mental Health On The Line – Weekending 12/02/17 This is a weekly post to act as an additional resource for both clients and fellow therapists alike. This week, we’re presenting some of the best from the past week featuring topics as diverse as actualisation and the roles we play, how we deal and contain pain, relationships, confidence, hypnosis techniques and inductions, and a look at Imposter Syndrome. If you have a video that you would like featured in our weekly roundup, then drop Lawrence a line with a link to your video. Dropping The Roles You Play By Actualized.org A video that explores The Roles You Play – A list of the most common roles people play in life and how to drop them. Are You Confusing Pity for Love in Your Relationships? By Alan Robarge Are you confusing pity for love? Are you trying to prove your worth by loving someone else’s brokenness? What are other, healthier ways to create relationships besides this pity-as-love dynamic? On this video, Alan Robarge, Relationship Coach, talks about using the pity-as-love approach to prove our worth in relationship. We try to guarantee some longevity of relationship by making ourselves needed. We don’t…

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Feel Like a Fraud? You Might Have Imposter Syndrome

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Feel like a fraud? You might have imposter syndrome Hugh Kearns, University of Manchester To many people, the actress Emma Watson, who plays Hermione Granger in the Harry Potter films, has it all. Talent, beauty, brains, and major acting roles at a young age. Yet Emma – like many people, be they in the world of acting, academia, health or sport – has admitted to feeling like a fraud despite her success. In an interview with Rookie magazine, Watson said: “It’s almost like the better I do, the more my feeling of inadequacy actually increases, because I’m just going, ‘Any moment, someone’s going to find out I’m a total fraud, and that I don’t deserve any of what I’ve achieved’.” This is an example of an interesting phenomenon called imposter syndrome – where people are seen as successful by outside external measures but internally they feel themselves to be frauds, undeserving of their success and in danger at any moment of being exposed. Have you ever had the feeling that you’re in over your head? That you’ve had many successes but somehow you feel you don’t deserve them? There’s been some mistake. You were just lucky that time, the right…

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