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Review: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

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Review: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck Mark Manson What do you give a f*ck about? I turned 40 a few years back. Around the time I turned 40, things felt like they were beginning to ‘fall into place’. I often refer to it as that ‘sense of alignment where everything is pointing in the same direction’. I was finding myself taking more risks from the heart instead of the head and bringing change into my life that felt good and more authentic. Doing that also took a greater sense of courage and vulnerability. To be able to step into a new and uncertain opportunity meant embracing the hope of a more meaningful day but also realising that there was a risk that I might also fall flat on my face. To be honest, even acknowledging both sides of that ‘risk vs reward’, I was ok with that. It didn’t mean that I didn’t still feel the anxiety of taking that risk however it did mean that I felt I was living far more authentically. I remember being at a bar with a friend of mine named Darren and saying to him that I didn’t feel like I…

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How I Learned To Tell Myself To ‘Shut Up’

By | Confidence, Inner Child, Mindfulness, Regression, Shame, Trauma

How I Learned To Tell Myself To ‘Shut Up’ Or, how to embrace your confidence and to eliminate toxic shame. For much of my adult working life, I’ve worked within the recruitment sector. Creative recruitment, to be exact. My role was often very demanding. I’d be required to find new clients (including cold calling), maintain existing client relationships, ask for and take job briefs, search for suitable candidates, interview suitable candidates, reference check suitable candidates, present across the suitable candidates and then, lastly, convince the client as to why they were the most suitable candidates that they would be able to find. On top of all of that, while this was going on, we were often finding that we would need to justify our existence and our rate every step of the way. There is often a line within that industry that people never choose to be a recruiter, it is a job that they fall into. When it came to creative recruitment, it was often just that tough harder as we weren’t talking about a job that people just ‘did for the money’. These were creatives and their jobs were often a reflection of who they identified themselves as…

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Embrace Your Confidence and Eliminate the Toxic Shame Workshop

By | Shame

Hypnotherapy HQ presents – “Embrace Your Confidence and Eliminate the Toxic Shame“ Workshop – May 2018 Facilitated by Lawrence Akers and Joe Busuttil. “I’m just not good enough.” “Nobody will find me loveable.” “I don’t have the intelligence to do that job.” How often do we find ourselves sitting with messages that we believe about ourselves that hold us back from the things that we might want to do? Holding us back with a belief that we’re inferior to others because of how we look, our education, our size, our race, our sexual orientation… From the moment we are born, we begin to form beliefs about who we are and our place in the world. We ‘learn’ from those around us the things that we choose to believe about ourselves. We learn from our parents, our peers, our school, our religion and our culture/society. When we believe we are inferior in any way, this belief about who we are can often form into a ‘shame message’. It can become that automatic thought that forms part of our reality about the world and our place within it. What is shame? Shame is that uncomfortable feeling that we are not enough in…

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Book Review: ‘Daring Greatly’

By | Shame

Book Review ‘Daring Greatly – How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead.’ Brene Brown Over the past year, I have spent a lot of time researching the topic of shame and vulnerability. It is a curious topic; the more I dig beneath the surface, the more I become completely fascinated and consumed by it and the more I recognize it every day in day to day situations. It was also one of the reasons why I had my own new year’s resolution around being more authentic in my day to day transactions, which would mean digging deep into my personal values and then living by them, no matter what kind of confrontation or awkwardness it may present. I can assure you now, it is harder than it sounds and it can often take a lot of courage to live authentically. I readily admit, there are times where I simply fail. Shame and vulnerability ‘Daring Greatly’ is a book that really delves into the topics of shame and vulnerability. It is a book so full of ‘aha’ moments that you could read it now, feel inspired, read it again in 12 months and…

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Getting Mental Health On The Line – Weekending 28/05/17

By | Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Happiness, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, Mental Health, Shame, Therapy, Trauma

Getting Mental Health On The Line – Weekending 28/05/17 This is a weekly post to act as an additional resource for both clients and fellow therapists alike. This week, we’re presenting some of the best from the past week featuring topics as diverse as a look at cognitive distortions, bringing a free online course about dementia to your awareness, a look at the stigma around mental health, a fascinating look at how hypnosis can help with allergies, learn hypnosis basics via the brilliant guys at Uncommon Knowledge (plus a free hypnosis session audio from them on terrorism if the past weeks events have had an impact on you), a look at leadership and higher purpose, getting started with self-actualisation, and finally, a look at how the unconscious helps to create the narrative (and your reality) in consciousness. It’s a MASSIVE week. If you have a video that you would like featured in our weekly roundup, then drop Lawrence a line with a link to your video. Cognitive Distortions By AllCEUs Counseling Education Dementia – free online course at FutureLearn.com By FutureLearn Sign up now at http://bit.ly/2r4GVQw. ‘Dementia’ is a free online course by the University of Birmingham on FutureLearn.com If…

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OUTthink – Anthony Lekkas Talks On Same-Sex Domestic Violence

By | Counselling, LGBTQI, OUTthink, Podcast, Relationships, Shame

OUTthink – Anthony Lekkas Talks On Same-Sex Domestic Violence Domestic violence is a massive problem in our society yet we often don’t stop to think about how domestic violence can impact on LGBT relationships. In a world where male ‘rough and tumble’ can often be normalised, how does domestic violence become understood within a same-sex relationship. In this episode of OUTthink, Counsellor, Psychotherapist and Facilitator, Anthony Lekkas explores what domestic violence is (across emotional and physical) along with the impact that it has on the LGBT community. About out guest, Anthony Lekkas Anthony is a qualified and registered counsellor and psychotherapist with the Australian Counselling Association. He has over ten years of experience at working in the not-for-profit sector at providing therapeutic services to young people, adults and couples. Anthony also has experience at facilitating a range of therapeutic and support groups. Anthony’s professional work experience has given him the privilege to support various relationship circumstances for relationship strengthening, conflict resolution, family separation and family/ domestic violence. Anthony provides a non-judgemental, understanding and safe environment for you to explore your relationship tensions and difficulties in order to arrive at a more equal, compassionate, nurturing and loving bond. Anthony’s work history…

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Getting Mental Health On The Line – Weekending 16/04/17

By | Emotional Release, Mindfulness, Relationships, Shame

Getting Mental Health On The Line – Weekending 16/04/17 This is a weekly post to act as an additional resource for both clients and fellow therapists alike. This week, we’re presenting some of the best from the past week featuring topics as diverse as OCD and compassion, a brilliant lecture by Deepak Chopra on finding your true self, a meditation to help release from attachments, the Hero’s Journey, the impact of shame on relationships, and a couple of pieces on the topic of mindfulness. If you have a video that you would like featured in our weekly roundup, then drop Lawrence a line with a link to your video. 12: Why Mindfulness? By Steps for Change What is all the fuss about mindfulness and mindful meditation? Dr. Greg Hamlin briefly describes what mindfulness is and how it enhances emotional intelligence. He then explains three ways that mindfulness can increase your happiness by helping you to tune in to what is positive, store up positive memories, and reduce the time you spend on negative memories that are not worth your attention. Finally, he suggests a very practical way to instantly get started practicing mindfulness. Donna Bloom: The Mindfulness Formula By Paul…

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OUTthink – Matthew Cooksey – A Discussion on ‘The Velvet Rage’

By | LGBTQI, OUTthink, Podcast, Shame

OUTthink – Matthew Cooksey – A Discussion on ‘The Velvet Rage’ It was around the middle of last year that my supervisor recommended that I read ‘The Velvet Rage’. I had mentioned how my focus was working with the LGBT community and he had reached over to his very large, very full bookcase and pulled out a copy like it had been sitting there waiting for me to arrive. I immediately went out and purchased a copy so that I could immerse myself in a book that had become a foundation of my past year. Since then, I’ve recommended the book many times to clients who have come in to see me as well as writing my own review on my blog. I first contacted Matthew because of ‘The Velvet Rage’. I noticed that he was running free workshops based on ‘The Velvet Rage’ and the concept fascinated me. I had been putting the plans in place to start OUTthink by that point and thought that Matthew could be a great guest to talk about this book that we were both so passionate about. And so, it finally happened. In a decision not to cut the conversation down into two…

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OUTthink Podcast Hits 10 Episodes!

By | LGBTQI, OUTthink, Shame

OUTthink Podcast Hits 10 Episodes! So, let’s be honest… hitting 10 episodes of a fortnightly podcast isn’t really that big of a deal however it felt like it was time to begin speaking a little bit more about this podcast that I’ve been investing some time and energy into. OUTthink is a podcast aiming to shine a light into some of the mental health and psychological issues that impact on the LGBT community. In my previous posting ‘Why I Created OUTthink‘, I outlined that LGBT folk have a unique relationship with shame during our childhood development. As kids, we knew we were different. We weren’t sure exactly in what way. We definitely couldn’t put a label on it, yet we could feel it and we knew the other kids knew too. As a result, we often allow the toxic effects of shame take impact; creation of the false self, rage, people pleasing, addiction – all common ways to deal with this feeling underneath that we were inescapably flawed and unlovable. As we find out place in ‘the community’, we begin to move more towards dismantling these shame messages and becoming more authentic. OUTthink really aims to both bring topics that…

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OUTthink – Episode 9 – Brian Madigan – Naked Gay Guru

By | LGBTQI, OUTthink, Podcast, Shame

OUTthink – Episode 9 – Brian Madigan – Naked Gay Guru Happy Mardi Gras everyone! What better way to celebrate Australia’s most international LGBTQIA event than by doing our first international podcast… and this episode, in video! As I mentioned in the introduction, it seems truly appropriate that my first video podcast should be with a gentleman who runs Naked Gay Men as it was certainly one experience where I felt a little more vulnerable! About Brian Madigan Out guest this week is Brian Madigan who is the founder of Naked Gay Men. Brian Madigan has been a full-time life coach, and mentor, since 2007. He’s helped clients: find new careers or enrich the ones they’re in; discover new love or renew a fading relationship; and deal with the stresses of day to day living But, most of all what he’s done is help them sink deep into themselves and discover how to express their truth in the world. Now, he’s applying all of that to his true passion, helping men, just like you. His goal is to help you discover what your best life looks like and move into it. Brian started his coming out process at the ripe…

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