How I Learned To Tell Myself To ‘Shut Up’

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How I Learned To Tell Myself To ‘Shut Up’ Or, how to embrace your confidence and to eliminate toxic shame. For much of my adult working life, I’ve worked within the recruitment sector. Creative recruitment, to be exact. My role was often very demanding. I’d be required to find new clients (including cold calling), maintain existing client relationships, ask for and take job briefs, search for suitable candidates, interview suitable candidates, reference check suitable candidates, present across the suitable candidates and then, lastly, convince the client as to why they were the most suitable candidates that they would be able to find. On top of all of that, while this was going on, we were often finding that we would need to justify our existence and our rate every step of the way. There is often a line within that industry that people never choose to be a recruiter, it is a job that they fall into. When it came to creative recruitment, it was often just that tough harder as we weren’t talking about a job that people just ‘did for the money’. These were creatives and their jobs were often a reflection of who they identified themselves as…

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Book Review: ‘Daring Greatly’

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Book Review ‘Daring Greatly – How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead.’ Brene Brown Over the past year, I have spent a lot of time researching the topic of shame and vulnerability. It is a curious topic; the more I dig beneath the surface, the more I become completely fascinated and consumed by it and the more I recognize it every day in day to day situations. It was also one of the reasons why I had my own new year’s resolution around being more authentic in my day to day transactions, which would mean digging deep into my personal values and then living by them, no matter what kind of confrontation or awkwardness it may present. I can assure you now, it is harder than it sounds and it can often take a lot of courage to live authentically. I readily admit, there are times where I simply fail. Shame and vulnerability ‘Daring Greatly’ is a book that really delves into the topics of shame and vulnerability. It is a book so full of ‘aha’ moments that you could read it now, feel inspired, read it again in 12 months and…

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When Is a ‘Workplace Bully’ Not a ‘Workplace Bully’?

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When Is a ‘Workplace Bully’ Not a ‘Workplace Bully’? Last week, I wrote my blog on what you should do if you feel you’re being bullied in the workplace. I have to say that I’ve been blown away by some of the feedback that I’ve had to the piece, both directly from friends and also on LinkedIn where the article was originally published. One friend of mine had just gone through a very difficult and painful bullying situation in her workplace and, while it has since been resolved, she forwarded the piece to her HR team as she knew how important this topic is. This week’s blog has come from one comment that I received in one of the LinkedIn groups that I do wish to share. I share this because I actually agree with much of what this person writes and it provides an interesting additional point that can only enrich this conversation further. Dawn wrote, “ If you are ‘feeling bullied’, you should confront your colleague and say that their behaviour is offending your dignity at work. It may feel uncomfortable to say but you are being fair, you are giving the ‘bully’ the opportunity to change. Not…

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