Insight for today; ‘I can’t’ vs ‘I can’.
As Henry Ford once famously said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.”
When we’re sitting in self-talk, how often do we find ourselves talking about what we can’t do and getting absolutely stuck in that moment?
The very nature of ‘I can’t’ seems to have people focusing on what isn’t possible.
It is the companion to excuses and reasons and limits us to a stand still.
It is the black and white thinking, all or nothing and it ultimately holds us back.
It is the victim state of mind where everything is outside of our control.
It is the ‘decision is made’ and being stuck in the problem.
“I can’t talk to that guy – he will never like me!”
“I can’t make the changes that I want to my life. Everything seems to get in the way.”
“I just can’t even…”
‘I can’ is the language of opportunity.
It questions the self-talk and creates options.
It is the power to know that there are steps, no matter how small, in a direction you want to go in and it promotes change.
It is knowing that you have some power to control how you respond to situations.
It is knowing that there are always options.
It is knowing what you can do. It is accountability.
It is solution focused.
How different would it be when you shift your thinking from what you can’t do to what you can do? Even just a little?
“I can make eye contact with that guy and if he smiles back, I know I can say hello.”
“I know I can begin to focus on what makes me happy in my world.”
“I just can even…”
What CAN you do?
When asked what they want in their world, people often will answer with what they DON’T want instead of what they do. Wouldn’t it be easier to just lose what you want to lose and focus on really what you want instead?
Be mindful of the times that you say ‘I can’t’. More often than not, even changing ‘I can’t’ to ‘I won’t’ will have a powerful psychological moment as ‘I won’t’ has the sense of your decision and owning it.
Become more solution focused; if you won’t deliver what is being asked of you, then what can you deliver on? Where is the compromise? Where are the shades of grey between the black and white bookends?
Consider this; more often than not, it is the belief that we’re incapable that holds us back over an actual inability. Yes, it is true that we are not all born to excel in everything in life. However, when faced with a challenging situation, how do you want to act? How do you want to be seen? What values are you willing to make a stand for to push through difficult situations and become closer to the truer, authentic version of you and what you represent? Actions speak louder than words so be the change you want to be.
If you find that your negative self-talk is taking over and you feel it is time to act like a boss, then contact Lawrence at Release Hypnosis on 0403 821 807, at the Release Hypnosis website, Facebook Page or even LinkedIn. Ask about our free half hour consultation so that you can meet me, discuss your situation and ask any questions you might have face to face before
we begin work.
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